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During frosh week, I was approached by a group of guys who were making rude comments and asking me if I wanted to go back to their room with them. I am white, and they were not. When I said “no,” they called me a racist bitch. Assuming that the only reason I would say “no” to them is because of racism made me feel horrible, especially since all I said was no to their absurd comments.
Location: McMaster University
Submitted by: Justine
Was heading to the subway after picking up groceries on my way home after work when a guy stopped me in the street. I thought he was asking for directions at first until he started suggesting we go somewhere. I politely refused and tried to walk on, but he kept after me saying, ‘Don’t you get horny? Don’t you like sex? I’ll eat out your p****y real good.’ I told him to f*ck off and very quickly kept walking away.
Really disgusting and disturbing.
Submitted by: Ali
Location: Dufferin Street
I was walking with my friend at 11:30pm New Years Eve. A group of 4 men were walking the opposite way, and one of them said, “You’re super hot, wanna come party with us?” Upon ignoring them, he aggressively said “I’MMA SHOVE MY DICK UP YOUR ASS.”
I was silent then, but I was not silent as I posted about it on facebook thinking I would get support there. Little did I know that this was hilarious or “the best thing I’ve read hahaha.”
So I rung in the New Year, without agency of my body, and humiliated by having friends and family think that having a rape threat yelled at me is funny or harmless.
Location: Yonge and Eglington
Submitted by: Nisha
I was walking to work this morning and a man on a bike made eye contact with me and then hurled a wad of spit at my face. It was right in front of a busy bus stop and no one showed any signs shock or sympathy, which added to my feelings of helplessness. I felt very violated.
This is probably the same man in one of the reports below. What a scummy man. I didn’t get a good look at him, but what I remember is a male wearing a hood with shabby, medium length, sandy brown hair.
Location: Queen and Dufferin
Submitted by: Erin
It’s a beautiful day, so I’m walking home while talking to my mom on the phone (otherwise I would have taken a photo of these … gentlemen). Somehow this kind of thing always happens when I’m talking to my mom and then I have to explain that not every dude is an asshole in Toronto … I’m pretty sure of it .
A brown van drives up beside me and slows down in front of a bunch of cars to match my pace. The man in the passenger seat pops his head out the window to stare at me and grin, and the driver gives me the classic A-OK sign and yells, “That’s very nice!” before speeding up again.
Uh, thanks for the hard-won approval of my ass, stranger. What am I supposed to do with that?
Location: St. Clair Avenue and Avenue Road
Submitted by: Anonymous
I work in a place that closes at 11. My co-worker and I had just finished and were locking the door when this group of guys (16-20 years old maybe?) came up on their bikes–there were about 7 of them. One asked for a light–neither of us had one and said so. One guy said “come on, there’s like, 7 of us, we shouldn’t bother these ladies, it will freak them out”. I should add both my co-worker and I are very small women–but that never stops me from standing up for myself! One guy asks my co-worker for a hug–she declines. He keeps bugging her and bugging her, until finally I snap and tell him “Why don’t you FUCK OFF AND LEAVE US ALONE”. My co-worker laughed it off and gave him a down-low five. I was FURIOUS. It’s definitely not appropriate to approach to women alone at 11:15 at night and ask for a hug…it’s beyond the pale when you don’t take “no” for an answer. I’m sure I got called a bitch…and I still have doubts as to whether I did the right thing or if I overreacted. But overall I’m glad I stood up for us!
(also I was reading about some awesome guys from K. I just want to shout out to my own co-worker, who waits with me for the streetcar when we work nights together. One day he says “see that guy peeing on the sidewalk over there? THAT is why I wait with you”)
Location: Bathurst St.
Submitted By: Kate
A man on a bicycle spit in my face after looking at my shirt that read “pro-choice”. I had just walked out of a therapy session where I was trying to work through the aftermath of two sexual assaults.
Location: Queen St. West
Submitted By: Anonymous
Me and my friend were on the College streetcar when a middle-aged man came up behind us. He grabbed me first and pressed his erection up against my behind. I was shocked and before I could react, he did it to my friend too and then bolted off the streetcar. We were the only two people standing in the aisle and there was more than enough room for him to get off. It was obvious he did this on purpose especially the way he wrapped his arms around me so I couldn’t move. It still disturbs me to think of.
Location: College/Carlton Streetcar
Submitted By: Anonymous phone app